Counselling in Brighton & Maidstone
Here we can begin to look at your ‘story’; how you got to where you are and where you would like to be.
Addictive behaviour is always a mask for discontent. Addictions make us feel better, that’s why we do it. Addiction takes the edge off the pain, the discontent, the anxiety we’re feeling beneath the surface. In this room we can start to look for your ‘triggers’; the things that set you off, and what that may be all about, for you.
We can examine what you’re getting from your addiction and how it makes you feel.
We can look at the rational understanding that what you’re doing isn’t helping you and uncover the emotional logic that keeps you repeating the behaviours. Addiction tricks us into believing we’ve found a coping mechanism that works for us but all it provides is temporary relief; we have to keep turning back to it again and again and increasing the amounts as we do. Eventually it gets out of control and we feel trapped, like we have nowhere else to turn. Counselling examines our state of mind when we do this to ourselves. Counselling looks for the recognition that what we’re doing we’re voluntarily doing and that we have a choice and that there are other alternative options available to us.
Counselling asks us to ask ourselves searching and pertinent questions. For example;
“What do we think we’re telling ourselves to make us this way?”
“How have the events of the past coloured our expectations for our future?”
“Who have we begun to believe we are?”
“What is our perception of our worth?”
“What do we hope for of the future?”
“How can we learn to distinguish between the false voice of our addiction and our true voice? And how can we make permanent this new truth?”
Counselling is a steady, reliable, steadfast exploration of what lies within, deep in the core of our being. We all become who we believe ourselves to be, we become what we think about, but who put those ideas in place in the first place? And are they correct? Or misperceptions that we’ve taken on board as immutable truths? How do we straighten them out to fit the true us? Who is the true, authentic us? And how can we start to become the person we truly are? By challenging those beliefs that we’ve held onto for too long we can grow into the true us, we can grow towards the light and leave the darkness behind. It’ll always be there but it won’t scare us anymore in the same way or drive us to obliterate it from our minds by using addictive substances and rituals.